Spring has….sprung? Not really, not here in the Upper Midwest. It’s trying (no snow flurries today unlike May 1-2) but I think we’ve got a few days to go before it really feels like spring. We’re getting impatient up here….where are the 70s? The sunshine? Come on spring, get here already!
We’re eagerly awaiting the “spring” of our infertility process as well. The time to start anew, where hope “springs” eternal and everything seems bright and new. IVF feels like a chance to start over, and an opportunity to feel optimistic. There’s still no control, no inevitabilities, but there is hope.
We met with our clinic last week; they are a very successful fertility clinic with good credentials and great word-of-mouth. We had a good experience; having done extensive research on the process already, I would say there were few, if any, surprises. But it was good to get things started.
We learned we’ll be doing ICSI, or intracytoplasmic sperm injection, right off the bat, which we were happy about. There’s just certain things you don’t know are happening until you get to this stage, one of those being sure that the egg is being penetrated at all. This will take the guesswork out of it.
We also learned we qualify for their ‘shared risk’ program which was not a surprise, but good to know. We’re creating budgets and cutting the fat at home, getting ready for the cash outlay that’s about to happen. That part really sucks, but it’s nice to know that it will be less costly if we don’t succeed for some reason.
Also, on Sunday, we met with a friend of a friend (FOAF) and spoke with her for about 90 minutes. I felt a little odd going along, since I’m sure my wife and her could have handled the conversation just fine. But the wife really wanted me there, and I’m glad I went. The FOAF was going through some of the same with her husband, and had recently miscarried on their first IVF attempt, and getting ready for a 2nd attempt later this week. But with all that on her mind, she was able to share in great detail her experiences so far and had some great advice for us. She was super nice and very insightful in terms of what she thought we needed to hear and to know. Calming my always-going wife about the 48 hour quiet period after implantation, talking about what and when to share with the inner circle of family and friends, she was terrific. Please send your thoughts and prayers to FOAF, as she’ll be implanting on Thursday!
We’ll hopefully be looking at our first retrieval and implantation in middle to late June. It seems so far away, but it will come rather quickly I would expect. For now, though, we eagerly await our spring. Get here, already!